Have you ever been angry? Well of course the answer is a resounding yes! It’s an emotion we all experience at some point.
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So, what is anger? According to Merriam-Webster, anger is “a strong feeling of being upset or annoyed because of something wrong or bad.”
When our middle son was younger he struggled with anger. Every time he couldn’t do something, he would get very upset. It didn’t matter what the situation was his response was to blow up.
I remember the first time he tried to play a video game on his older sister’s game system. After his sister handed over the game controller, our son proceeded to crash and burn. My son was so upset he threw the controller and broke it.
As a result of his actions, my son earned himself two days in his room. He also had to apologize to his sister. Over the years, my son continued to act out his frustrations until one day I decided to take a different approach to his misbehaviour.
I was in the kitchen cooking dinner and our son was watching television. When our oldest daughter entered the kitchen, I asked if they had finished their homework before I arrived home. Well, our daughter informed me she finished her homework, but her brother had not started his.
Our son knew he was in trouble because the rule was when you get home from school to eat your snack and start your homework. We don’t turn on the television until all homework is completed.
Of course, our son heard his sister and before I could call his name, he jumped up and started yelling at his sister. He was so angry he kicked a hole in the pantry door. When he realized what he’d done, he apologized and went to his room.
After I calmed down, I sat our son down for a conversation. He apologized and asked how long he would be grounded. I told him wasn’t grounded however he had to pay for repairing the door. The door cost him a year’s worth of his allowance. After that experience, our son learned to make better choices.
You’re the leader, how do you manage your anger?
[shareable cite=”Eleanor Roosevelt”]Anger is only one letter of short of danger.”[/shareable]
To not allow anger to control you, you must understand what causes your anger and how to own your frustration. The next time you feel angry, try the following steps, offered by Bill Gardner:
- Ask yourself,” What is the threat I feel?”
- Analyze, “How big is the threat?
- Ask yourself, “What are some options I could take?”
- Decide what your response should be…
[callout]How you respond to anger will directly impact your success.[/callout]
As a leader, it’s important to learn how to deal with your anger in a constructive manner.
How do you manage your anger?
Your friend,
Kim
Dr. Kim Moore | Your Leadership Guide | kimdmoore.com
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